DONT GET DOWN ON YOURSELF
After a
breakup, people tend to plummet into a pit of low self-esteem and guilt. You are looking for reasons why the
relationship ended, and you start obsessing and blaming yourself. "Maybe I was too hard on her for canceling dinner with my parents" or "
Maybe I shouldn't have yelled at him when he came home late
without calling."
This kind of negative thinking spirals out of control quickly. You may start feeling you're not attractive enough or funny enough or just plain good enough to be with that person, which isn't true. Sit down. Take a breath. And STOP this negative thinking right now! This isn't to say that you shouldn't reflect on your role in the relationship. Just be kinder to yourself!